Saturday, 29 November 2014

Anxiety Advice

Hi there!
Welcome to my blog! Every Saturday, I will be uploading a new blog, and it could be an advice blog or a short story that I write in spare time or what I have been up to in the week or just whatever I feel like writing about. I decided to write this anonymously as I felt I needed somewhere I could just "be me" and not worry about people judging me.
This a very personal blog for me to write, and it is all very hard for me to put into words, but I will try my best as I thought this would be a good blog to start off with and if it might possibly help just one of you then this will all be worth it. Although, it will be hard for me to write this I wanted to write this as my first blog, as I hope this blog can help just knowing that you are not alone and there are things you can do to help panic attacks and anxiety.

What is anxiety?

Anxiety is the feeling of fear or panic. Most people feel anxious, panicky or fearful about situations in life, such as money problems or exams but often once the difficult situation is over, you feel better and calmer. Sometimes the feelings of fear or anxiety continue after the difficult situation or sometimes you may feel a stronger sense of fear than other people and this is when anxiety becomes a problem and can affect you doing every day things.

What is Social Anxiety?

Social anxiety is a persistant fear of social situations and interacting with other people,beyond simple shyness or the mild anxiety we all experience from time to time. It can disrupt normal life,interfere with social realtionships, lead to feeling of lonliness and isolation and negativity effect your studies and education.Social anxiety effects mainly teenager but some adults as well, and severe cases lead to panic attacks.

I have had anxiety for about two years ago now but I do think I was always quiet a nervous child. I have mainly social anxiety, which basically makes it really hard for me to talk to anyone but I also have anxiety so as well struggling to talk to anyone I also get panic attacks a lot and some are far worse then others and some are only mini as it depends how anxious I am feeling or what is going off in my life at the time as that is normally why they can be worse then others. Since I have realised about my anxiety over these past two years I have found some ways that help me when I am feeling anxious so even though this hard for me to share I am sharing this with you to help you understand that if you have anxiety then you are never alone and give some tip to deal with anxiety and panic attacks. Here are some tips on how to deal with anxiety/panic attacks that 
helped me and I hope helps you as well.

Tip 1
Talk to someone you trust. that someone could be parent or a best or close friend or even comment below ( you can comment anonymously or email me a comment at if you feel comfortable as then I will read you comment and reply to it so that I can help you! :)

Tip 2
Walk away from the situation and find somewhere you can be alone whether that is in a toilet cubical or outside. normally I prefer going outside as I prefer to be in fresh air as then I don't feel trapped but sometimes if I am in college in the middle of a class and feel anxious like I feel a panic attack coming o I just have to go to the toilet cubicles and have five minutes. Sometimes if I in a big group of people and I feel anxious then I excuse my self from group and walk outside and have a few minutes to calm down. Mostly like to be on my own in a panic attack but sometimes if I am in a big group, and there is one person within that group like my best friend who knows about my anxiety then I will ask that person to come outside with me for five minutes (without being rude to the rest of the group obviously), as I know that this person will help me get through this panic attack as they understand about your anxiety and can either talk it through with you why you were feeling anxious or distract you and take your mind of the anxiety.

Tip 3
Sometimes when I am in a situation that I can't escape from and get away and get some fresh air like being trapped on an aeroplane for hours without being able to escape as I get extremely panicky on aeroplanes, I then distract myself by watching films and listening to music and reading books and magazines or sleeping or talking to who ever I am travelling with, about anything that isn't about the travelling, whether that's what we are going to do on holiday or anything but the travelling.

Tip 4
Control your breathing. I always make sure I carry a paper bag anywhere with my as you never know when a panic attack will happen, as when you panic you take short panicky breathes which then you end up having unbalanced carbon dioxide to oxygen as this can course you to become light headed and to faint. having a paper bag can help as then it helps you control the carbon dioxide to oxygen and prevent you fainting.

Tip 5
When you have a panic attack you then start to think crazy thoughts but you can reassure yourself- " I am not going to die." "I will get through this."

Tip 6

Remember that none is judging you-they are probably just as anxious as you are. Everyone is insecure, just because they seem confident doesn't mean they aren't anxious and worrying and insecure about themselves.

Tip 7
Challenge yourself with situations that you feel anxious in-how ever terrifying it might be. This is something I need to start doing as I will confess something that if i find a social situation to make me feel very anxious and stressful and worrying, so instead of facing that fear and trying to overcome that worry I sometimes just walk away which at the time feels like the right thing but it isn't as then you are procrastinating thinking "next time that fear or worrying situation comes around I will overcome it," which isn't good!- and attempt it i am not the only who does this am I? Instead I challenge you all reading this to overcome one stressful, fearful situation (even if you don't have anxiety you can still overcome one fear this week with all of us),and then when you have overcome it
comment what and how you challenged yourself to overcome this stressful, fearful situation. I will be joining you as well as I am going to overcome my fear of ordering food in a restaurant that you go to order at the counter instead of them coming to take your order at you table. I will challenge myself to overcome this anxious situation later on in the week. I will update up all in next week's blog post on how well I did with this and you can all comment below telling me what and how you overcame this week. Let's challenge ourselves together. :)
Tip 8

If you are in a big group of friends, make sure you have at least one person in that group that knows about your anxiety and you feel comfortable around that person as this always helps me as if I am feeling anxious and feeling like I might possibly have a panic attack then I know I have one person who will help me out and make me feel less anxious.

Tip 9
If you don't feel up to talking to someone (tip 1) then try writing your feelings down every day like a journal/diary. Try it as this will help as then if you don't feel confident enough to talk to someone then try just writing things down as a diary as then your not just leaving feeling unresolved in your head as this can affect your sleeping as well as if you are stressed and worrying about something then it might affect you sleeping which isn't good as then you will be sleep deprived for the next day.
Here are some useful links of websites that might help you.
Anxiety Forum:
Hope these links help!
That is all the advice I have for now, I hoped it has helped and if you would like to share your own advice then comment below (you can comment anonymously or privately email me at and I will read it and eventually reply back and try and help you.)
Remember you are never alone.
Don't forget to try and overcome your fear this week and then comment how and what you overcame and I will update you guys in next weeks blog post on how I overcame my fear.
Thank you for reading (if anyone is reading).
Love you all!
GeekyGirlOnline  going offline xxxxxx


Anonymous said...

Thanks for the advice :)

Anonymous said...

Thank you! This has already helped so much just from reading it! :)

Anonymous said...

I'll take all these tips into account, thankyou very much.