Anyway throughout high school, we were good friends, I considered her to be my best friend and looking back I don't think there were many issues with her in high school other then we never got to hang out much outside of high school but for private school that pretty normal. There was a rivalry between me and a girl lets call her Katie, not her real name, and she was always very attention seeking, jealous person. She was always jealous of my friendship with Emily as we were very close, any chance she got to show her jealously and be mean to me, or tease me, knock books out of my hands, knock my stuff off my desk, take Emily away from me she did, but to the rest of the class and my teachers she was a perfect! (pauses to throw up)
Anyway, the only bad incident I can remember with Emily in high school involves Katie. One incident in particular, we were in year 8/9 (aged 13) and we had all just got facebook. Emily had only just got facebook alot later then the class as her mum was strict about technology and social media. It was Friday night and Emily and Katie were having a sleepover. My phone rings late that night and it was emily saying the sleepover was off they had an argument. This was a lie. The phone kept ringing until I unplugged the house phone as it was really late and me and my parents were trying to sleep.
The next morning I wake up to facebook messages from Emily and she was saying she was upset about the sleepover not happening and she was angry and upset at katie because they had am argument, did I think Katie's hair was stupid and curly and random stuff that wasn't very nice like that. I believed it was Emily behind the screen and she upset so I went along with what she was saying even though I knew it wasn't nice. The messages stop and I carry on my weekend and go to school on monday thinking everything was fine. We get called into the head teachers office, which when your a shy 13 year old is terrifying. Turns out it was not emily behind the facebook messages it was actually Katie writing the messages with Emily next to her trying to see what I thought of Katie. Long story short we get told off by the headteacher, who terrifying enough without the lecture and Emily is banned from facebook and grounded by her mum for a while and they both a detention.
Be careful when talking to people online, you don;t know who it actually is behind the screen!
This was when I started to notice things were going bad. My best friend, warned me and was telling me to cut my ties with Emily and ditch her now, before I get too hurt, I wish I didn't just dismiss this and listened to her.
A few months pass, a new year starts and nothing really changes, she never made time for me and never tries to care about me, just only thinks about her. It's coming up to the end of year 1 in this college and she will be leaving for a job offer soon, and this is where things turned sour.
She was planning on a little leaving party for her before she leaves for the job as it's in a different country. Me and her friend decided we would help plan it and come with ideas and organise this leaving party. We were talking through social media and planing.
We had a conversation at college one day, she found me by the printer in the middle of class, not the best time or place for a conversation about your friendship especially when your tutor walks by and sees you slightly upset.
We message back and forth lots and we both agree it's best to end the friendship, I was so done with her and needed to cut her out my life. I need to thank my best friend Jane (not her real name but she know who she is) who helped me write lots of messages and helped me deal with the situation.I don't think I would of manged the situation on my own if it was for her, so thank you, love you lots!!!!
I then cut Emily out my life, which was the best thing I could of done, it did hurt alot and I am still only just over it, as she was my friend for 8 yeas so it hurts. I wrote her a letter of everything I wanted to shout at her, and ripped it up and burnt it, I recommend doing this it bring you closure. I blocked and deleted he from social media and my phone, so I had no means of her being in my life any more. She is gone and my life is better now, and I friends and best friends who love and appreciate me for just being my weird self! I love these friends!
To cut this very long rambly blog post short, (thank you if you made it this far and are still reading!) It is okay to delete bad friends. I you believe a friend isn't a good friend, and doesn't doesnt care about your or your feelings, its completely fine to get rid off them!
steps to do this:
1. USE YOUR WORDS
Talk to them, whether physically, or texting which ever is more comfortable, talk to them and ask whats going on and if they still want to be your friend and tell them how they are being a bad friend.
if they listen, apologize, and you agree to give them another chance great! good luck! dont give them too many chances if they dont change.
say goodbye and delete them from your life.
cut any ties with them, block them on social media, delete their phone number and any messages
Find good kind honest friends who love you for being your weird and awesome self! I promise you good friends exist!
I hope this blog post encourages you to to get rid of bad friends or gives you the courage to speak to your bad friend about the reasons they're a bad friend and for you to use your words! Its okay to delete a bad friend!
If you need any advice or your unsure whether your friend is bad and want to talk about I am available, comment below or dm me on twitter @geekygirlonline
and I help anyway I can even if you just want someone to rant to about your bad friend.
Thanks for reading
remember you always have a friend in me!
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